According to John and Julie Gottman, one of the building blocks for building a sound relationship is the expression of fondness and admiration. Those words can be an invitation to deepen the relationship with our partner. For example, the word “fondness” comes from a Middle English word that mean “to be foolish” or “to be simple.” Or take the word “admiration.” It comes from an Old French word that means “astonishment or surprise.” It can also mean to “regard with wonder.”

John and Julie Gottman, in their work with couples, talk about another kind of map: The Love Map. With a Love Map, you are not exploring a geographical location. You are mapping a place that has much more appeal and attraction to you: the inner world of your partner.

As an alternative to weekly therapy, my Intensive Couples Therapy offers a condensed and focused approach, allowing you the extended time you need to address specific problems between you so you can get your relationship back on track.  You will have uninterrupted time (up to 4-5 hours each day) to talk in depth about the struggles of the relationship in a way that is not available in weekly marriage counseling.

It is a simple, ordinary moment that happens every day. It’s just something that couples do, a routine they get into as part of their relationship. But what if there is another way to think about these simple exchanges, a way that can deepen and enrich the relationship with your partner?

Conflict is a normal part of marriage.  How you handle conflict when is arises determines its impact on your relationship.