Emotional neglect is a subtle, often invisible undermining of emotional bonds between you and your partner.  Unlike overt abuse or conflict, it is characterized by what is missing—attention, empathy, affirmation, and warmth—rather than by explicit negative actions.

When faced with relationship challenges, understanding the potential benefits of different therapeutic approaches can be crucial in deciding the best way forward. Two common options to address such issues are couples therapy and individual therapy. While both offer valuable insights and tools, they serve different purposes and are tailored to varying dynamics.

Conversations are one of the main ways we make bids for connection with our partner. Here are some ways to have better conversations with each other.

The first year of marriage offers you a variety of challenges. You will have experiences and encounters you have never imagined.  There are significant adjustments as you lay down the foundation for your life together. 

An effective apology can make your relationship more resilient and secure.

It is important, however, to understand what a good apology is…and is not.

An apology is not just a nice or polite thing to do.  It is a way to acknowledge an act that, if left unnoticed, can harm the relationship.  An apology gives the opportunity to disarm the anger of your partner.  It can prevent further misunderstandings.

But sometimes the problems are not just internal.  They can be external.  Both of you have personal stresses that do not find their source in the relationship. 

Like I said, defensiveness happens in relationships.  But reacting from a place of defensiveness is harmful to the relationship.

Gottman discovered that an important predictor of relationship stability is whether couples make “cognitive room” for their relationship and for the world of their partner. This involves developing a map of the world of your partner, a cognitive map of the relationship and its history.

Gridlock happens because you are dealing with a perpetual problem.  These problems, which make up over 70 percent of relationship conflicts, are perpetual because they are based on differences in things like personality, life experiences, family-of-origin dynamics, temperament, or deeply held values.