Like I said, defensiveness happens in relationships. But reacting from a place of defensiveness is harmful to the relationship.
Reconnecting With Your Partner
4 Steps to Overcoming Gridlock in Your Conflicts
Gridlock happens because you are dealing with a perpetual problem. These problems, which make up over 70 percent of relationship conflicts, are perpetual because they are based on differences in things like personality, life experiences, family-of-origin dynamics, temperament, or deeply held values.