Gary Hardwick

September 30, 2023

How Repair Attempts Can Strengthen Your Relationship

Gary Hardwick

September 30, 2023

How Repair Attempts Can Strengthen Your Relationship

In his book, The Science of Trust, Dr. John Gottman says that both partners are emotionally available at the same time only about 9% of the time. This leaves a lot of opportunities for misunderstanding and conflict.

Gary Hardwick

September 16, 2023

Anxiety Treatment

3 Ways to Move Beyond Perfectionism

Gary Hardwick

September 16, 2023

Anxiety Treatment

There is nothing wrong with striving for excellence, but perfectionism makes you a slave to success. No matter how well a situation turns out, it is hard to embrace and enjoy the outcome because your mind finds some way that it is not perfect.

Gary Hardwick

September 2, 2023

Anxiety Treatment

5 Ways that Perfectionism is Harmful to Your Well-Being

Gary Hardwick

September 2, 2023

Anxiety Treatment

5 Ways that Perfectionism is Harmful to Your Well-Being

Perfectionism is not really about doing something perfectly. It is about the feelings of self-worth you are striving for with a flawless performance. And yet, the standard of perfection that you carry around inside you keeps you from feeling any sense of accomplishment.

Gary Hardwick

August 19, 2023

Marriage Counseling

3 Ways To Stop A Defensive Reactive Pattern

Gary Hardwick

August 19, 2023

Marriage Counseling

3 Ways To Stop A Defensive Reactive Pattern

One of the first things I do with almost every couple I see in counseling is help them identify the presence of a defensive reactive pattern.

Gary Hardwick

August 5, 2023

Stress Reduction

3 Components of Stress

Gary Hardwick

August 5, 2023

Stress Reduction

In his book, When the Body Says No, Dr. Gabor Mate identifies three components of the experience of stress. Understanding these components can help you respond in a more meaningful way to the presence of stress in your life.

Gary Hardwick

July 21, 2023

Marriage Counseling

2 Responses to Long Term Conflicts

Gary Hardwick

July 21, 2023

Marriage Counseling

One of the questions I always ask is how long have these issues been present in your relationship? It is not unusual to hear the couple respond in terms of months and years.

Gary Hardwick

July 8, 2023

Depression Treatment

5 Ways to Survive Depression

Gary Hardwick

July 8, 2023

Depression Treatment

If the depression has been around for a long time or if you have had several depressive episodes, it is easy to believe that you will never have a meaningful life. Here are five actions that you can take that will help you develop a different relationship with your depression.

Gary Hardwick

June 23, 2023

Anxiety Treatment

3 Ways We Try to Avoid Anxiety

Gary Hardwick

June 23, 2023

Anxiety Treatment

Instead of anxiety being a normal and natural part of your life, you start to get anxious about being anxious.

One of the ways people try to deal with anxiety is to control it.

Gary Hardwick

June 10, 2023

Stress Reduction

Decluttering and Stress

Gary Hardwick

June 10, 2023

Stress Reduction

The truth is you can have so many possessions, so much stuff that it can interfere with the quality of your life. Clutter can create tension and stress. It can heighten the tension and stress you are already feeling.

Gary Hardwick

May 27, 2023

What You Need to Know About Anxiety and Alcohol

Gary Hardwick

May 27, 2023

What You Need to Know About Anxiety and Alcohol

Another strategy you might use to deal with the anxiety is drinking. Over and over, TV commercials encourage you to have a drink to relax. However, the relationship between alcohol and anxiety can be more complicated than that.